For the most part, puppies and kittens are loved by all. Even the gruff and the unpleasant usually melt a bit if you drop a small puppy or kitten in their lap.
While not as obvious, people usually love their own ideas even more. And like a mother dog or cat, they will defend these ideas from all that threaten them, regardless of how appropriate or inappropriate the threat is (or perceived to be). This can make communication and cooperation difficult.
It’s not always logical and it is not always beneficial. We are often not even aware we do this.
So, why should this matter to you? Two reasons.
First, your ideas may be great… but likely not all of them. Allow some of them to fail or be defeated. It will help the other ideas bloom and blossom as you focus energy on the winners instead of defending them all.
Second, realize that when you do not embrace someone else’s ideas, they may unconsciously see it as an attack. Find ways to encourage people to come along with you instead of pushing them. Find something to like about their ideas even if you do not love them or intend to use them. It will be appreciated if you are sincere. I’m not saying accept every idea from everyone. I’m just suggesting you show respect and appropriate consideration.
To communicate well, understanding this can be very useful in business negotiations, project management, team projects, prospecting, selling and even improving cooperation with your clients, vendors and colleagues.
So show some love for someone else’s ideas when you can.
(And don’t pass up the chance to enjoy, or adopt, a puppy or kitten too!)